Welcome to

Oh Gay Cupid!

Autostraddle’s OkCupid collection. We get plenty concerns on Formspring relating to internet dating, so we ultimately got a bunch of men and women together to generally share it.


While OkCupid actually really the only online dating site for queers, and maybe is not even greatest, it can be seemingly usually the one we utilize usually. We’re going to be speaking about things OkC, including meeting pals, first times, profiles, fuck-ups, letdowns and. Even though it’s the ‘OkCupid Series,’ counsel offered inside collection could easily be used to any online dating service.

Oh Gay Cupid! illustrations by
Rory Midhani

It Is Friday! Are you experiencing a date this evening? Do you want a date tonight? Why not jump on your pc and discover one? If you’re such a thing like my neurotic self, acquiring an online go out requires 2 days of
thoroughly editing your profile
, two months of cherry picking your city’s offerings, fourteen days of nonchalantly bantering backwards and forwards along with your potential big date as well as 2 hrs of debating the merits of urban area’s different refreshment slingers. Which will be all really and great if you want to fulfill some body prior to the end of 2013, but

tonight

is Date Night! You only lack time for this shit.

What exactly if you decided to dispose off your preconceptions of how exactly to Properly satisfy anyone and actually simply met somebody? Like saw a stranger across the internet and requested them on a night out together with no knowledge of their unique Google look background? A tad bit more
A/S/L
and some less »
Would you instruct your young ones to think in Santa?
» i am a little ashamed to admit the number of pages i have missed once I watched they appreciated a film I hated, are not as enthused by food as I had been or happened to be «too into» politics.

You and You will find an arbitrarily metered match compatibility of under 98per cent? This crap’s never ever going to work!

There is something to-be stated for a bit of mystery and that is what
Wild Blind Date
is trying to accept. CBD is OkCupid’s attempt in to the realm of quick mobile matchmaking. Fuck crafting the most wonderful profile. See people? Meet that individual! While Grindr gets the marketplace cornered regarding homosexual male mobile phone attach applications,
there’s always room for improvement in terms of the ladies
.

CBD had been
fashioned with feamales in mind
, exactly what does that mean?

Could it be green? Does it sparkle? Can it dispense chocolate and Kleenex easily get stood right up?

Well yes, discover parts of the application which are red and there is a confetti-like theme on some pages, but sorry, it is not

that

best. It just takes an alternative approach that you can find out soon enough. As with all great situations, you must begin someplace.

Step one. Craft that Profile

Four questions. You’ll handle four questions. Especially when one among these is actually, «what is actually your own title?» (do not overthink this one.) Much like the OkC program, it’s going to admire if you are just seeking girls.

Action 2. Know your routine.

Are you presently planned becoming bored the next day? Okay you can carry on a date instead.

Action 3. Understand Your Area

Pick your own favourite site and recommend a night out together indeed there. You may advise times various other metropolises if you’re likely to be traveling inside the upcoming few days.

Step four. Get a night out together

The app’ll let other date-seekers in the area realize that you are available. You both feel like coffee on a Tuesday? Rating! Start a chat an hour when you get together to be certain neither people will flake and you’re good to go.

Hold off this software sets you with an arbitrary complete stranger? That audio sketchy as bang!

Last unbeliever, let us hear the software on for a second. Whenever CBD helps to keep feamales in head, it really is trying to consider protection. Even if you don’t know plenty towards individual you’re carry on a night out together with, you know a little about

in which

you are heading. CBD uses FourSquare’s sources so you/they can only just advise dates at frequented areas. When you are picking your own place, click on the > to get into their FourSquare entryway and verify you are certainly planning a cafe and never Hal’s Back Alley Murder Emporium.

Pulling yet another web page from FourSquare’s concept, you reach evaluate your date and the app when it’s over.

Did you meet up with the One? had been they really a fifty-year old man? Happened to be they worth an additional day?

You have got an opportunity to offer a financial Kudos with the app for an effective or not-so-successful go out. But simply just like your well-meaning great aunt gets offended as soon as you will not think about happening a date using the great boy she met about pavement, CBD gets in some a huff any time you ignore the offerings.

Miss unnecessary times? Won’t recognize it helped you see successful?

Might notice that the «Available Dates» will get less and less populated. But any time you approach it nicely it’s going to keep establishing you up and hopefully get a hold of a great big date.

From inside the heart of getting circumstances completed, the software places lots of time restrictions you. It is going to

just

enable you to set up dates for all the coming week. It Is Going To

only

enable you to talk for one hour before your day.

In a weird task of technologies, this app really seems to get individuals satisfy traditional. While that feels like most force, it’s a bit of a comfort to an overthinker. You simply do not have the opportunity to psyche your self out-of a night out together. You can’t invest forty moments on a daily basis creating a witty yet innovative a reaction to, «what is actually your own favourite color?» You also cannot enter into daydreaming overdrive and produce ridiculously inflated objectives of them dependent from

their particular

amusing yet careful answers. Y’all just reach end up being yourselves.

Since its this type of a fussy app, will it work?

Pardon me for one minute while I store my matchmaking crystal baseball and take out my fortune-telling crystal ball alternatively. CBD has a plus over mobile internet dating apps as it can piggyback off of the popularity of OkCupid. You’ll be able to miss the five steps you took in creating your own CBD profile and make use of your OkC one alternatively. The applications are connected with each other, enabling you to pick the method that you’d prefer to meet somebody that day.
Feel a game title of forty questions
? Open OkC. Only want to share popcorn with a stranger? Create CBD.

In the event that thought of satisfying somebody and talking-to them one-on-one nevertheless appears also strange, CBD may possibly not be for you personally. Should you decide’d rather drop by a gay club and hope you satisfy somebody on dancing flooring,
you’ll nonetheless make use of technologies discover that party
. But either way, you are going to still need to suck it and start talking to some one in the event that you
ever before be prepared to discover date
.

Hopefully it doesn’t seem also crazy.